Yes, Hello My Wonderful Followers. Me Again.
We all have those days where it feels like everything is going wrong; where you woke up on the wrong side of the bed and you know it; where despite your best efforts you’re rude and snappy to people you come in contact with; and where you constantly feel like you could break down into tears. And today my friends, started off as one of those days for me.
But you all know that I am a person who accepts positive vibes only…
So I am going to tell you all how I am going to turn my day around. Make a seemingly negative situation into a positive one.
First things First:
Assess your situation. Try and figure out why you are feeling the way that you are feeling. Has something happened lately in your personal life, did you get rejected by yet another job (oh wait, that’s me), are you on a new medication that may be making you moody as a side effect, is your Aunt Flow coming (please tell me ya’ll get that). There could even be multiple reasons why you are feeling the way you’re feeling, try and pin point a couple and go from there.
So for me:
This morning I woke up at 5:30 when my alarm was set for 5:50. I was feeling upset because yesterday I got rejected from a job over the phone, and I am feeling extremely puffy and bloated when I don’t think I should be. Those are the things that I can pin point that started my day off on the wrong foot.
See if you can look at your situation with a “when one door closes, another one opens” kind of attitude. Now this may not be applicable to every situation, but really try and find a silver lining. A good example that I always use when my period is coming and I am in immense amounts of pain (TMI?) is, “well, great news, this means I am not pregnant”. Thinking of that kind of silver lining always makes me laugh a little bit, then feel relieved, and a little less angry with the world.
Ok I am going to focus on the job thing here because I think it is most relevant. I truly believe that when one door closes another will open. I think that this job that I had gone through so many interviews for really would not have been a good fit for me. And I knew that after my second interview, however I kept trying to convince myself I would learn to like it because I just needed a freaking job (not something I would suggest doing). So while I was kind of upset that I didn’t get the position, I am happy that I now have the opportunity to pursue a career that is more in the realm of what I want to be doing.
Try and figure out if the reason you’re feeling down and negative is something that you have the control to change. Now I know that we do not have control over everything in our lives. So if there is some torrential downpour happening right outside your window and that’s putting you in a bad mood, you can’t personally fix that unless you have somehow taught yourself magic and can end bad weather. If a person that you spend a lot of time with is making you feel negative, maybe control the amount of time you spend with them, or have a talk with them and figure out what is going on in their lives to make them feel so pouty.
Like I said, I have been feeling super puffy and bloated. And in my mind with the way that I eat, and the amount and way that I exercise, I shouldn’t really look the way that I do. Normally what I do in these kind of situations is reassess my diet, which I have recently done. I recently made the switch to a Paleo based diet, which I think is making my digestive system feel better, but I am still holding onto a lot of water. Ok, so diet isn’t it. Then I went and looked up side effects of the pain killer that I am on, and you wouldn’t believe what I found! Long term use of Meloxicam can make you retain water and swell! So that seems like it should be an easy fix.
If you can’t get out of your own head and rationalize the way you are feeling, go out and do something that you enjoy. Or do something relaxing, really whatever floats your boat. Get out and go for a walk, head to the gym, listen to your favorite songs on repeat and dance around your room lip syncing into a hairbrush. Do anything to get you out of your own head, and thinking about something else. Most of the time you just need to get your mind off of something negative in order to realize how unimportant it is, or how silly you were being.
Ok so this morning I went to the gym in hopes that I would start feeling better. I put my headphones in and was ready, and I could not for the life of me get out of my own head. I was trying to help myself, and it just was not working like at all. My whole workout I was thinking about other stuff. I was trying to listen to my favorite songs to get me pumped up and happy, and that wasn’t working. So this didn’t help me, but in other situations it likely would.
Talk to someone about how you are feeling. You all know that I am such an advocate for having a strong support group in your life. I think that it is so important to have people in your life that you can share your feelings with and that are willing and able to help you through any tough kind of situation. You may be strong and independent, but you cannot solve every one of your problems on your own. Ok maybe you can, but only like 99% of the time, and that other 1% of the time you will need some help.
What I Did This Morning:
I started with an apology to my mom after our workout because I was being rude and mean and she shouldn’t have to deal with that just because she is my mom. I said that I was sorry that I was in such a bad mood, and the unfurled everything else. And she said the best thing she could have ever said to me: “You can’t let this get you down, you’re such a positive person, and something is going to happen for you”. Maybe not exactly that, but it was something along those lines, and now here I am not feeling sorry for myself anymore and in a way better mood.
Moral of this story
Don’t let a bad mood dictate your day. You have the power to turn it around. You are in control of your life.